Beginning a new life…
I was given the opportunity to move to Zurich, so I decided to give it all I had in me. Looking back, the first 2 years where challenging: German was a difficult language to learn, the mentality so different to what I was used to, and I missed my family. There were times I was thinking of packing my things and move back to Israel. But I felt that before I did, I needed to first give my full effort. Not quit when things got rough, but work harder, build my own roots in this new country.
Starting a family…
So I worked my way up, learning the culture and building a career in parallel. I was so focused on my individualistic achievements that I didn’t really question my relationship. I had married my first husband and together we had our beautiful little baby boy. Everything was supposed to be perfect… It just wasn’t…
I felt so conflicted: Was I giving up too easy? Or was I right to question a situation I didn’t feel made either of us happy?
Today, I know that I made the right decision. If we hadn’t ended our marriage I wouldn’t have met my current husband. I wouldn’t have experienced 20 years and counting in a strong, healthy relationship. And most importantly, I wouldn’t have had my two youngest boys.
A new direction…
When my third son was born I decided I needed to try a new route. I had been spending a lot of time with young moms who felt unhappy with the way their bodies have changed, the way they see themselves. Spending hours on a playground listening to their stories, hugging them when they cried, reassuring them of their strength and ability to make changes when needed, and ways of them gaining back their self-belief and self-love. This all made me realize how much I enjoyed listening and supporting. So I decided to dedicate my time fully to helping women achieve their confidence in themselves and love their new bodies.
I opened a business importing products helping women feel better about themselves. With no background in import sales, I used my strong communication skills and ability to read people to negotiate exclusive contracts for the whole of Switzerland. Once again, I was spending long hours with mothers, trying out my products over coffee and chat.
I felt honored by the trust these women had in me, opening up about their relationships with their partners, the challenges every couple goes through:
They felt like there was no one they could talk to about having hurt or disappointed their partners. They saw their friends as having good and stable relationships, and felt ashamed sharing their own problems with them.
Staying neutral, and without judging, I listened. Being in a long relationship myself, I understood the work involved in keeping the partnership a happy and healthy one.
I believe that many problems can be solved with direct and open communication, but that can only be achieved with self-confidence, belief in your own ability to improve when needed, to trust in the person you are opening up to, and to visualize the possibility of a future that is better than the situation you are currently in.
If you don’t believe you can resolve the issue you are addressing, you will not see the reasoning behind opening up in the first place. Any problem can be solved, with the right perspective and by asking the right questions.
Becoming a relationship mentor…
In 2015 I completed my certification as a coach, and opened my own praxis to help men and women get clarity about what they are looking for in a partner.
Through my work, I have discovered that what is holding so many people back from finding true love and lasting relationships is not knowing what they really need from another person. We all think we know what we want. But without truly understanding ourselves, we look in the wrong directions, and waste time and energy on looking to fill at check list that has very little to do with making us happy.
Today, I help people find love, and keep it.
A healthy relationship starts with understanding and trusting yourself, so you can let go and let another person into your life.
Are you ready to make a change in the way you search for love? To discover what you really are longing for in a partner? To step outside your comfort zone and open up for new feelings and experiences? and finally, date quality people who you can see as potential partner!
Then let this be the moment you do something about it, our first talk is just a phone call away