Fear of physical and emotional intimacy when dating at a later stage of your life
What is it about intimacy that frightens you the most?
Is it the vulnerability of opening up to someone physically and emotionally?
The idea of giving away a piece of you which you tell yourself you will never get back and regret losing?
Has it been a long while since you had sex and opened up to someone?
Intimacy is one of the most satisfying experiences. Sharing your most intimate feelings, passions with someone is a wonderful way of staying happy and ending loneliness. In your fifties and sixties, your age becomes less significant and your health and approach to life play a more important part.
The secret to dealing with the fear of intimacy is to learn how to not blame only yourself for a relationship which does not end up the way you wanted it to. At the end of the day,the fear is not really of intimacy itself but rather the fear of getting hurt as a result of intimacy.
Living in fear of getting hurt and making the wrong choices will end up in you not fulfilling your true potential and enjoying life to the fullest. The experience of intimacy itself is not what triggers fear, rather the pain it may bring if it ends or is not properly appreciated by the person we have chosen to be intimate with.
When clients come to me after an intimate connection they often feel deep sadness ,loss, anger, and their self esteem gets hurt too. It is important to not lose the feeling of self worth but rather define and stand up for themselves.